At some point, we stop asking for what we need and start managing our expectations. We stop dreaming and start coping. And somewhere between the longing and the logic, we find ourselves in relationships that are “fine” — but not fulfilling.
Settling in love doesn’t always look dramatic. It often hides in the small moments:
- The unanswered emotional need
- The conversations that never get deep
- The hot-and-cold affection
- The quiet agreement that “this is just how they are”
We learn to make peace with disconnection.
We rationalise emotional absence.
We convince ourselves this is normal.
But here’s what Spirit has been showing me:
Settling isn’t about what they are doing — it’s about where we’ve stopped showing up for ourselves.
It’s a pattern rooted in early life, family systems, and energetic wounding. One that says don’t expect too much, or your needs are inconvenient.
But your needs are divine.
They’re clues to your capacity for real, soul-level intimacy.
Today I have sent out an audio message to my email list; it is a channelled invitation to come home to that truth.
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re asking for too much — this message is for you.
You can check your emails or sign up to my list to receive these soul drops straight to your inbox.
You are not too much.
You’ve just been settling for not enough.
Love
Rebecca-Lee
