Let’s be real — not every parent is safe.
Some of us have had to walk away. We’ve gone low contact, no contact, or set firm boundaries just to protect our peace, our body, our sanity. And that’s valid. Sometimes, not engaging is the most loving choice — for yourself and your lineage.
But here’s the part most people don’t talk about:
Even if you never see them again, your parent still lives within you.
Your mother is your life force. Your father is your direction and self-worth.
Your life came through them. And in soul work, life must be honoured before it can truly flow.
This doesn’t mean you have to reconcile. It doesn’t mean you have to forgive things that are unforgivable.
It means you take your parent in — exactly as they are — and give them their rightful place. You say, “You are my mother.” or “You are my father.” Not because they earned it with good behaviour, but because life chose them to carry you through.
Until we do that, we stay entangled in resistance.
We keep fighting life.
We might try to build something new — a business, a relationship, a family — but part of us is still leaking energy through unresolved rejection of our roots.
That resistance often looks like:
- Repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns
- Blocking abundance or self-worth
- Attracting people who mimic our parents’ wounds
- Chronic illness or exhaustion
- Feeling spiritually or emotionally disconnected
You can say “no more” to the behaviours.
You can go no contact if you need to.
But your soul still has to say yes to life — and life came through them.
And when you do this inner work?
That’s when things begin to shift. You stop leaking energy. You stop repeating patterns. You stand rooted and powerful, because you are in right relationship with your source.
You’ve taken your place in the order of love.
And now, life can truly take its place in you.
We explore this in depth in Unlock Your Love Blocks®, where we unravel what it means to come into alignment with your family system — even when boundaries are needed.
Your healing doesn’t require your parent’s participation.
But it does require your presence — and your willingness to take your life fully, just as it came.
Love
Rebecca-Lee
