I hear from many clients, particularly woman, who struggle to find a partner since they have been on their spiritual path of awakening. Many speak of their sadness leading a “lonely life” as an aware spiritual person / healer / lightworker. It is true that when we begin to set foot on our path of awakening we often have to walk away from many people who we now see as toxic or not aligned with who we are and our new values. We can feel very isolated from others as we get to know ourselves on a whole new level – a Soul level.
We find ourselves in this in-between stage. We don’t like or want to do the things that used to make us happy, we don’t like spending too much if any time with people we have had in our life, yet there is this moment in the transition where we don’t know who we really are yet; what we like to do now (other than meditating and soul searching doing a spiritual and personal work) and who we want to spend our time with. We are in this land “in-between”.
What I do know is part of the journey is to have this time alone. How long that is for and how long we are in this in between stage where we are no longer in our old vibration but we have not fully landed and integrated the new vibration yet is different for each person.
My advise to my beautiful single peeps is not to focus too much on finding love during this transition stage. A big part of the journey is to learn who you are and like your own company. Many people are breaking out of co-dependent patterns during this stage; where we feel we “need’ someone to help make us feel happy or complete, and sometimes even distracted or entertained.
It is important to get to like your own company. Not to like being alone. There is a difference between being on your own and being alone. Yes, many feel alone, but that can be a time where you need to dig in deeper within even more and find more about yourself to integrate. I find for many at this point you are ready to do some shadow work and reveal some hidden aspects about yourself and integrate them. You can do shadow work in Key 9 of the Unlock Your Love Blocks® program.
If you have been on the journey for a long time and find that you have been through the “transition” and come out of it and still find yourself alone and cannot find relationship and you would really like one I also recommend shadow work. It may even be a distorted spiritual belief that you may need to recognise.
You see, once we come out of the transition phase many of us work through our judgements and perceptions we have. Whilst we still want someone in our life with a similar vibration and similar values we become so much more anchored into ourselves. Some people who believe that their potential partner need to have the same spiritual beliefs and practices as them keep going around and round in circles because their judgements and beliefs around “being spiritual” are still egoic and need further examining.
Whilst a potential partner may not have the exact same spiritual beliefs and ways to connect with their Higher Self as you, if you took the time to look, trusting in yourself and how far you have come, and open to see that everyone has a different path way, you may find your potential partner opens himself up when he is in nature, or out on his boat or when he is building something in his shed and goes into a trance state. He might not label it the same way as you and perhaps even acknowledge it the same as you, but it doesn’t mean he isn’t or doesn’t connect on the higher vibrations. Perhaps in time he will learn more about that from being with you. In the meantime my advise is to be open and trust your intuition and let go of the expectation that the right match for you needs to look and be how you think a spiritually awakened or evolved person ‘should be”.
Consider doing some deeper work through the Unlock Your Love Blocks® program. Use your intuition to guide you as to whether you need to do the whole program or what Key would best serve you now. Sign up here at www.rebecca-lee.com
Soul Love
Rebecca-Lee
